Friends
Sometimes I wonder if Josiah will ever have friends. Children with disabilities who are severely challenged typically do not. Oh, there are children in his special needs class at school that one might consider to be his friends. He is non-verbal so he doesn't talk to them. I really don't know if they interact much with him either. We were in a playgroup when we lived in
But I have to step back occasionally and try to look at him from the prospective of his siblings. To have a relationship with Josiah requires a degree of selflessness that children often times don't possess. It must be so frustrating for them. He demands a lot. He gives almost nothing back. His self help skills are very limited. His aggressive behaviors and loud vocalizations make public outings down right embarrassing. He needs round the clock one-on-one attention which means either mom or dad is always with Josiah, leaving his siblings to fend for themselves often times. He knocks things over, throws things down, climbs on things, over things and under things that shouldn't be climbed on, doesn't pick up after himself, doesn't help with chores, doesn't take care of any of his own needs, grabs hair, screams loudly and has quite a few tics such as making pig like snorts and punching himself in the head and on the chin many times through the day. He is not potty trained yet and has left puddles on the floor in the check out line at Wal-Mart. He has hurled dozens of eggs and gallons of milk out of shopping carts, contents crashing and spilling everywhere. He has grabbed unknowing passersby and smacked them in the arm. He has no social skills. A relationship with Josiah requires that you look past all of that. It requires that you help him when he needs it, even when you don't want to. It requires that you give up your own desires, to meet his. It requires ignoring what other people might be thinking because their opinion doesn't matter. They don't walk in your shoes. It requires a maturity that hopefully will come in time.
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I Love it... Not only does he have a friend but a Guardian Angel!!!
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